BEING A COSLEEPING FAMILY, or sharing a family bedroom, can be practiced in various ways to respond to all the needs of your loved ones.
It’s a fact that most of us have not known this practice when we were young, and it’s often a mini-revolution to establish it in our house.
First, cosleeping makes for the most peaceful and comforting nights for your child. Sleep comes more naturally and power struggles to achieve it fade. Closeness facilitates your leadership by itself, because your child easily place his trust in you to keep him safe.
On the other hand, if you’re a parent accustomed to sleeping without being touched or having a fragile sleep, you may get your sleep pattern disturbed during the period of adjustment.
But to look at your child all quiet when sleeping, and to see him (mostly) all smiles during the period of falling asleep and waking up are worth all the gold in the world… and the small adjustments to make.
Because it is a rare occurrence to see a child under 5 years of age willing to leave the family room voluntarily. They love the safe arrangement!
As a matter of fact, few of us as adults prefer to sleep alone.
Here is how you can set the family bedroom to tend to the needs of each family member, which may change as a child age.
Remember to follow the safety instructions for cosleeping with a baby, if you have one.
1. The Large Bed Cosleeping Family Arrangement
The best choice would be to place a mattress directly on the floor, in the middle of the bedroom, to accommodate all family members. You would perhaps need get yourself a king mattress to do this.
Mattresses can be put side by side, but it is recommended only for older children so there is no entrapment and suffocation risks. Place the mattress along a wall in this case, mounted in something like a wooden structure, and use king mattress sheets for example to retain them together.
If you keep your bed base, there are bed barriers for children that may fit on your own bed to prevent young children falling.
2. The Dormitory Cosleeping Family Arrangement
This cosleeping arrangement is one that often works well with what we already have.
Everyone sleeps on their own mattress, placed separately in the family room.
It is appreciated by those who love to have their “bubble”.
However it deprives of real closeness (ah the famous in-arms sleeping phase that passes so quickly!) And for babies, it deprives them of sleep training (they naturally follow the rhythms of a close parent) and skin-to-skin stimulation.
3. One Parent-Child Cosleeping Family Arrangement
One parent could not be able to sleep well in a family room.
Around the world, it is not uncommon that a mother sleeps with her baby while the father sleeps in another room during the early childhood period.
The advantage is that the latter can be well rested, but it can keep him away from a beautiful moment of connection with his child – although this can be minimized during the day with a supportive parent.
4. Siblings Cosleeping Family Arrangement
For older children, a good compromise to the family room is for siblings to sleep in the same room, whether in a double bed or another arrangement. This brings them closer and meets their need for security. And fun ?
Which cosleeping family arrangement do you choose?
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